Considering that just 0.3 percent of the population is estimated to be transgender, that is staggering.
Unless there’s a small handful of transgender people who are cleaning up while everyone else stays home, it means that a great number of us are dating.
In every state but two, it is still legal for those murderers to claim that they “panicked” after discovering that their sexual partner was transgender. And while too many of us internalize that message, most of us know it’s bullshit.
So, if you overhear a transgender person venting about dating online and think we need yet another person to tell us that we’re disgusting and repulsive, think again. The truth is that it would be almost impossible for a cisgender person to find every single transgender person on the planet unattractive.
For that reason, some transgender people have to deal with the question of when—or if—to disclose to a sexual partner that they are transgender.
Those haters act as if we’re complaining that no one wants us when what we’re really complaining about—more often than not—is that the people who do want us can’t seem to be chill about it.
The same survey that found that 27 percent of Americans wouldn’t be friends with a transgender person also found that four percent of Americans said that they had been on a date with a transgender person in the last year.
I met a cisgender (i.e., non-transgender) woman in 2013—before I underwent sex reassignment surgery—and we have been exclusively together ever since.
She was attracted to me—woman to woman—before I had a vagina and she’s still attracted to me now that I have one.
I want to make something clear right off the bat: Not everyone needs to date a transgender person. In all seriousness, though, I have to put that disclaimer at the front of this essay because the online discourse machine has a nasty habit of misinterpreting transgender people who try to talk about the struggles of finding romance.