Am i dating a codependent
The lack of dependability can be emotional as well - being there for you one minute and gone the next. I even had a similar incident with my mom being sick and he walking out on me... he is actually a retired mental health counselor, so of course I thought he was probably right and would only look out for any human being's welfare, especially mine.... the last we were together he went into a RAGE that I had never seen before so much that I feared for my life in the car, so I sat quietly and listened... I kept thinking maybe he was bipolar or schizophrenic, but I am CERTAIN it was narcissim....
Societal and cultural values have shamed men as weak for expressing feelings or needs, which reinforces codependent traits of control, suppression of feelings, and denial of needs. The societal norm for male suppression of feelings is compounded and distorted if you grew up in a dysfunctional family where it wasn’t safe to express feelings and needs.While there’s absolutely nothing wrong inherently with being charming, romantic, and a good lover, the narcissist crafts these traits in order to use others. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol 52 No 6. It is better to find out if things are incompatible between the two of you before any knots are tied.He or she is not really interested in you, but only what he wants to extract from you (often to fulfill an inner emptiness due to the inability to create true intimacy). Lack of Reliability and Follow Through Another way to spot a narcissist is to measure her or his actions against her words. Sometimes you have to take charge and realize that you love and respect yourself before thinking about others. I hope you are able to make a decision that will end up with your happiness in the long-run, especially if it may be with someone who will appreciate your existence; as well as respecting your parents. I had been dating a man for the last 6 months and it just ended this week.If she or he tries hard to persuade you and wouldn’t let up, or shows signs of impatience, irritation, or anger (like a petulant child), take note. Rule Breaker and Boundary Violator The narcissist often enjoys getting away with violating rules and social norms, such as cutting in line, chronic under-tipping, stealing office supplies, breaking multiple appointments, or disobeying traffic laws. Threaten to withhold love and intimacy (such as it is). There are many possible reasons for a partner’s lack of commitment. is available as a presenter, workshop facilitator, and private coach. He over inflated his skills/accomplishments/etc, he thought he was an expert at literally everything, he constantly talked about himself and was actively disinterested in anything I had to say, he'd lie to "win" an argument, he'd throw a fit if something didn't go his way, to him every man looked up to him and every woman had a crush on him, he missed every birthday I had and every holiday.― Anonymous narcissist In addition, pathological narcissists often show wanton disregard for other people’s thoughts, feelings, possessions, time, and physical space. Some are highly reasonable and deserve serious consideration. What distinguishes a narcissist’s lack of commitment is his or her desire to keep the status quo with you, reap the benefits of intimacy, while keeping an eye out for other, perhaps more eligible (in the narcissist’s view) prospects. For more information, write to [email protected], or visit I could go on and on but I will say this, the relationship never gets better and things turn very very ugly once you want to end the relationship.
Many narcissists lack reliability and follow through. I see that you are already thinking about the problems and looking for ways to address them. I have been in tears but I started researching things on the internet which led me to this great article.