In dating an older
Somehow I just ended up here.”But Chelsea says there are benefits to a generational gap.“Everyone thinks that some sort of power imbalance in a relationship is hot, even if they don’t admit it,” Chelsea said.
Previously, she seriously dated someone 27 years her senior. “It’s not like I’m sitting at home searching ‘lesbian age gap’ on Pornhub or whatever.
Like, relationships are hard enough without your friends warning that your younger boyfriend is “using you.” Chelsea recalled, “In my previous relationship, when I had to tell my parents that I was dating someone nearly 30 years older than me, that was obviously stressful. People would shout stuff at us on the street, or mistake her for my mother, which always totally weirded me out.”Also, there are physical realities.
“When you’re dating a young hot person, you’re suddenly like fuck—I have to go to the gym,” Chelsea said. “I definitely have anxieties about my younger girlfriend outgrowing this relationship, because that’s a risk when you have an age gap.”It’s not surprising that dating a young person might highlight your insecurities about aging.
The Older Man had cool friends who had made movies and weren’t on their parents’ family plan. But while the daddy vibe had longevity in bed, in life it got old pretty quickly.
He gave me helpful advice on my career (“Don’t fuck your boss”) and about sex (“Stop screaming”). Whenever the Older Man and I went out, he chose the restaurant.
I wonder: What do we gain and lose from dating someone of a different generation? For one, he wore silk onesie pajamas that he meticulously ironed to have a crease down the center of the pant leg.