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However, be extra careful in not expressing any judgment of any type (health, money, you name it) and be tactful ("If you don't mind, can I ask you..." / "You can not answer if you're not comfortable with it, but..." etc). As for the type of compromise to reach for when you're together, ask them what's their suggestion: Maybe you'll find out that if you go and eat Chinese food, then the cigarette is just compulsory, but not if you just go to a park (just making these up), and you two will decide to postpone the Chinese food night for a while. Being with other smokers is a big push towards smoking, whereas being with a nonsmoker whom you care about is a good reason to just postpone a little bit that one cigarette. There are other minor details, like keeping cigarillos handy if I'm going to be around heavy cigarette smokers (I find the cigarillo smoke less bothersome, especially compared to menthols), but suffice it to say I smoke infrequently enough that for medical purposes, I'm considered effectively a non-smoker.
She ended up just forgetting smoking when we're together :). But if asked in a dating profile, I'd put "sometimes" so didn't appear dishonest or mislead someone who has a strong objection to smoking. I would treat this like you would any other part of someone's character.
If it happened twice in a row, though, I think you would be justified in asking, "Should I expect this every time we go out?
" I would probably laugh the first episode off, but two in a row would make me consider whether I was compatible with that person.
This is no different from, say, finding the right religion (where again, some couples manage to have a mixed marriage, but most fail, so why not start from any easy connection?Explain the symptoms you get when you smell smoke and ask if they could not smoke before or during any times you two meet up.You can even throw in a comment about how you don't really care that they smoke for moral reasons, but it's just for your well being. Note: If your date vapes, you might not have that much of a problem with the smell. And since we've been together for almost a year already, I can tell you that a couple of a non smoker and a smoker can exist and be happy. To get it, it was important to not make it a matter of principle, but a matter of what's important to me and what's important to her: she knows that I hate the smell when I'm eating, so during meals/snacks she sucks it up, whereas I know that the cigarette before going to bed is sacred for her, so I suck it up instead.) That's a reasonable point that you can bring up when discussing it with her.If it seriously affects you in that way, your date will most likely be understanding about the situation and make compromises.